2025November 5,

Common Sense of the Body Episode 90 What are the real emotions hidden behind anger and irritation? Part 1

1. Why are you irritated? Expectations and affection hidden behind emotions

The moment you think, "I'm frustrated!", in fact, there are often expectations for the other person hidden behind that emotion.
For example, you may be strongly frustrated when you expect something from your family, lover, or friends and feel that those expectations have been betrayed.
For example, have you ever felt more angry than usual for some reason when your partner made a small mistake?
That's because I had expectations from my partner that I wanted them to do this, and those expectations were not met.
Interestingly, if someone else, such as someone completely unrelated, does the same thing, you won't be so annoyed.
Annoyance can be said to be evidence that you care about that person.
Because of love and trust, expectations arise that "I want you to do this" arises, and when those expectations are not met, I get irritated.
In other words,Annoyance may be "part of your love" for that person.

2. The gap between expectations and reality causes irritability, and people unconsciously have a lot of expectations for the people around them.

It is an expectation that "you will understand this much" or "it is natural for you to do this".
However, when those expectations do not match reality, a large gap is created in the mind, which leads to frustration and anger.
For example, if you don't get the kind words you expected from a close friend, or if something you asked your family to do doesn't go as you wanted, you will suddenly become frustrated.
But behind that irritation lies a wish to "do more like this".
Behind this feeling is anticipation and affection. What you meanThe feeling of being irritated may be a form of love for the other person.